Most couples haven't had a real conversation in weeks. Not because they don't want to, but because they don't know where to start.

We aren't talking about logistics, or "how was your day?", or what you’re having for dinner. We are talking about a real conversation, the kind that makes you discover something new about the person next to you, even after years together.

The good news: you don't need a therapist, a weekend retreat, or a huge romantic gesture. You just need a good question and a few minutes where you actually put your phones down.

Here are 25, so pull up a chair.

Before you start: set the mood

The questions matter, but the environment does too. This is what works best:

Phones face down. Not on silent, face down. You can feel the difference.

Something to drink. Coffee, wine, tea, or whatever tells you "this is a moment, not another chore."

No agenda. You aren't trying to fix anything tonight. You are just curious about each other.

Take turns. One asks, the other answers fully, then switch. Resist the urge to interrupt early.

And that’s it. You don't need any app, any subscription, or any special occasion; just two people deciding to be present tonight.

Level 1: Light and easy (start here)

These feel light, but they sometimes lead to surprising places. Perfect if it's been a while since you've had a conversation like this and you want to ease into it.

1.    What is something you’ve been looking forward to lately that you haven't told me?

2.    If we could go anywhere this weekend, with no budget and no responsibilities, where would you go?

3.    What song has been stuck in your head lately? What does it remind you of?

4.    What was something small that made you smile this week that I didn't know about?

5.    If you could go back and relive one day from the last year together, which one would it be?

6.    What is something you used to do that you miss? Why did you stop doing it?

7.    What hobby or interest have you always been curious about but never tried?

8.    Who has surprised you the most recently and why?

9.    What have you changed your mind about in the last few years?

10. If you had a completely free day tomorrow, no responsibilities, no plans, how would you spend it?

11. What are you proud of right now, but haven't said out loud?

12. What is the most interesting thing you have read, seen, or heard lately?

13. Is there something we have wanted to do together and keep putting off?

14. Is there a place you have been that you think I would love?

15. What does a perfect Saturday morning look like for you?

These questions come from the same philosophy behind Conversar y Conocerse: the idea that a real connection doesn't need huge efforts. Sometimes it just needs a starting point.

Level 2: More depth

Once you've warmed up, this is where the good stuff begins. Silences might arise. That's okay, silence is also part of this.

16. What is something from your childhood that you have never told me and that shaped who you are today?

17. When do you feel most like yourself? What are you doing in those moments?

18. What do you think I misunderstand about you, even if it’s something small?

19. Is there something you’ve been wanting to tell me, but haven’t found the right time?

20. What does it look like for you to feel truly supported by me? Do you feel that now?

21. What is a fear about the future that you almost never talk about?

22. When was the last time you felt completely at peace? What was happening?

23. What are you working on about yourself, and how can I help make it easier?

24. If our relationship could change in one single way next year, what would you like it to be?

25. What have you sacrificed for our relationship that you have never said out loud?

What to do when a question takes longer

Sometimes a question hits you in a way you didn’t expect. One of you goes silent. Or something comes out that surprises you both.

When that happens, don't move on. That is not a problem. That is exactly the point.

Put down the list. Stay in that moment. The other questions can wait.

The best conversations we have heard didn’t happen because couples asked all 25 questions; they happened because they got stuck on one and didn’t let it go.